Fe resolves itself externally. Asking hard-ball Fe questions, bouncing back and forth is like emotional sparring. Emotional, IQ–are you consist within yourself, are you being honest with yourself, are you overlooking anything. I’m not really close to any I/ESFJs so I don’t know if they spar in the same way. But, I think when two intuitives go off it’s usually much more meta/future based/big picture.